Kaduna state University student allegedly beaten to death by SARS officers for possessing stolen phone

   

A 300-level student of the Kaduna state University simply identified as Richard, was allegedly beaten to death by SARS officers in Kaduna state. Twitter user who shared the story said the family of the deceased is demanding justice.

Richard was alleged to have been in possession of a stolen phone which he bought from someone. Read her tweet bellow 

 

HOW TO DEVELOP A GOOD PARENT AND CHILD RELATIONSHIP

The relationship between a parent and a child is among the most significant in a person’s life. As one of the earliest connections a child has, the parental relationship sets the bar for everyone thereafter. Positive parent-child bonds foster autonomy, curiosity, self-esteem and better decision-making skills. Improve your relationship with your child by getting involved with their lives and building stronger communication. Also, learn how to adapt your parent-child relationship with time.

BEING INVOLVED

Get on their level. You can enrich the relationship you have with your child by connecting with them in an age-appropriate way. Teach, work on projects, and play on a level that your child is familiar with. This helps them bond with you and makes you seem more approachable.

·         If you have a toddler, get on the floor and build a city out of blocks. If you have older adolescents or teens, join in on a round of video games.

·         You are more likely to spark conversation during these types of activities than by trying to get them talking at the dinner

     Emphasize the importance of family time. While your children need to know that you acknowledge and respect their individuality, it also counts when you uplift the family as a unit. Make family time a regular and special part of your routine.^[2]

·         Eat meals together most nights of the week, and have everyone share their peaks and pits (i.e. best and worst moments) of the day. Go to sporting events, movies, or community gatherings together.

  Dedicate one-on-one time for each child. Spending time together as a unit is essential. You should also set aside time to focus on each individual child. Prioritizing one-on-one time helps you form a connection with each child. Plus, it also helps you focus on each child’s individual strengths and talents.

·         Find a shared hobby to engage in with each of your children. Maybe you will teach one kid how to fish on weekends. Or, work with another on perfecting a piano performance. Free up part of your weekly schedule to build a special relationship with each child

 Stay in touch with academics, friendships, and extra-curricular. Parents who have good relationships with their children are involved with their lives. You can’t expect to have a strong bond with your children if you simply say “good morning” and “good night” each day.

·         It’s understandable that you’re busy juggling work and other responsibilities, but you should also make an effort to get to know your kids and learn about what’s happening in their lives.

·         If you have some free time, offer to volunteer at school, coach a softball game, or meet with your children’s teachers regularly to stay updated on their academic performance.

·         Sit down with them as they do homework. Help them practice their lines for the school play. Invite your kids’ friends over so you know what kind of influences they are around

 Kids around. Let your kids know that things don’t always have to be so serious between you. Of course, you want them to respect your authority, but you also want to laugh with them. A sense of fun can liven up their lives and build fond memories.

• Make crazy faces or noises to supplement mealtimes or playtime with smaller children. Act silly with adolescents by pulling pranks or telling jokes.
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Maintaining Positive Communication

Be trustworthy. As a parent, it's important that you build a foundation of trust. Trust translates too many roles in parenting. Of course, your child needs to know that they can rely on you to be there. When you say you’ll do something, do it. Keep your word. This helps your child form basic secure attachments that will influence future relationships.

·         However, trust also means respecting your child’s need for privacy and keeping their confidences when they do share with you.^[6]

·         Trust doesn’t necessarily mean you believe whatever your child says, but it does mean you’ll try and give them the benefit of the doubt.

Practice active listening without distractions. Parents are busy. But, you also want to make sure your children know that you care about what they have to say. Even if your child is complaining about the same issue at school or going on and on about teenage drama, try to give them your full attention. When you actively listen, you strengthen your bond with your child and demonstrate their importance to you.

·         Silence your phone and shut off the TV. Don’t zone them out in order to prepare your response. Truly listen to your child and try to understand their message. Turn to face them. Make eye contact. Use open body language. Listen without judgment or negative facial expressions.

·         Once they’re finished speaking, summarize what you heard. For instance, your daughter says, “All the girls at school are going to this camp-out next weekend. But, we have to go to that stupid wedding.” You might say, “It sounds like you are frustrated because you can’t attend the camp-out.

Follow the 3 F’s of effective parenting. Every child pushes the envelope a bit when it comes to communication and behavior. However, as the adult, you are must be inclined to respond maturely and calmly to misconduct. Go by the 3 F’s to help you with discipline and protect the overall parent-child relationship.

·         Be firm. State what the consequences are and apply them consistently.

·         Be fair. Make sure the punishment fits the crime. Try to avoid harsh or excessive consequences.

·         Be friendly. Convey your words in steady yet polite tone. Avoid raising your voice. Simply explain what terms they violated and lay out the consequences. Also, take time to praise them when they are doing well

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Have relaxed side-by-side conversations. Adolescents and teens can easily become intimidated with too much face-to-face communication. Reduce the pressure by planning some of your talks in a parallel position. Try asking your son about bullying at school when driving him to rugby practice. Ask your daughter about her new love interest when you are baking in the kitchen.

·         Use this time to really get to know your child, including their interests, preferences, hobbies, etc. Share your own interests, likes, and background with your child too.

·         Emphasize any similar interests you both may share. Your child is more likely to engage and open up when talking in this way.^[

Changing the Relationship over Time

 Review rules and increase privileges as your children get older. As your children age, it’s important to review your rules and guidelines and change them as needed. Children need to see that you trust them with more responsibility as they age. However, this also may translate to more serious consequences when they break the rules.

·         Encourage cooperation by sitting down with your children and discussing the rules. You might say, “It seems like you haven’t had any problem sticking to your 9pm curfew. Since you’re older, I think we’ll extend that by an hour. How does that sound?

 Include them in decisions. The feeling a teen gets when their parent genuinely wants their opinion is priceless. Many parents just bark out decisions instead of letting their kids play a role. However, as your children become teenagers and young adults, it can give them a sense of autonomy to offer forth their opinions.

·         Allow older children to weigh in on more decisions like choosing clothes, meals, activities, or vacation plans. You might ask their opinion about handling family matters to show you respect their point-of-view.

·         For example, you might say, "Jackson, what's your suggestion for this week's family movie night?" or "Where would you like to go for summer break?"

Encourage your child to take on challenges and find independence. When your child has a strong relationship with you, they feel empowered to go out into the world and take on challenges. Be a supporter for your child, pushing them to develop greater self-efficacy over time.

·         This may translate into allowing your teenager to handle their own laundry to read them for college life. However, it may also involve empowering your child to stand up to bullies or speak up (respectfully) to a teacher who gave them an unfair grade.

·         Empowerment happens through gradual instruction. Teach your child how to take on more demanding chores or tasks. Role-play with them through stressful social situations. Then, give them feedback to encourage future progress.

 Open up and show your human side. As your children mature, it’s okay to relax the parent hat a little and let them get a glimpse of the person underneath. In fact, showing your kids your human side can actually reinforce lessons. Use personal, age-appropriate stories to drive home ways your kids can learn and grow.

·         For instance, if you were bullied in school, share that with your child and explain how you got through it. They look at you as being strong and invincible because of how you overcame bullying

HOW PARENT’S AFFECTION SHAPES CHILD’S HAPPINESS FOR LIFE.

We all live busy, stressful lives and have endless concerns as parents, but it is clear that one of the most important things we need to do is to stop and give our kids a big loving squeeze.

However higher self esteem, improved academic performance, better parent-child communication, and fewer psychological and behavior problems have been linked to this type of affection.

On the other hand, children who do not have affectionate parents tend to have lower self esteem and to feel more alienated, hostile, aggressive, and antisocial.

There have been a number of recent studies that highlight the relationship between parental affection and children’s happiness and success. More resilient and less anxious adults. The study involved approximately 500 people who were followed from when they were infants until they were in their 30s.

When the babies were eight months old, psychologists observed their mothers’ interactions with them as they took several developmental tests. The psychologists rated the mother’s affection and attention level on a five-point scale, ranging from “negative” to “extravagant.” Nearly 10% of the mothers showed low levels of affection, 85 percent demonstrated a normal amount of affection, and about six percent showed high levels of affection.

So, how can you bring more affection into your family’s day?

1.       From the moment you bring your baby home from the hospital, be sure to hold, touch, and rock them in your arms.

Spend many precious moments caressing your baby so that their skin can touch your skin.

2. As they get older, be playful

Do fun activities like dancing together or creating silly games like pretending to be a hugging or kissing monster.

3. Set a reminder to make sure hugging is part of your daily routine.

In the recent Trolls movie, the trolls wore watches with alarm clocks that would go off every hour for hug time. If that’s what it takes, then set yourself an alarm. Or make sure to give your kids a hug during certain times of the day, such as before they leave for school, when they get home from school, and before bedtime.

4. Use affection while discipline a child

As you talk to them about what they did wrong, put your hand on their shoulder and give them a hug at the end of the conversation to ensure them that, even if you are not pleased with their behavior, you still love them. If your children hit their sister or brother, hug them and explain how hugging feels better than hitting.

Finally, be careful not to go overboard and smother your kids. Respect their individual comfort level, and be aware that this will change as they go through different stages.

JAMB RELEASES NEW UNIVERSITY ADMISSION GUIDELINES.

  JAMB has approved new admission rules for applicants applying for admission to Nigerian higher educational institutions. Introducing the new rules, Mr. Oloyede announced that the policy and process implemented by JAMB were improved to provide hitch-free reception in the academic session 2018. He said that the number of points for mobile money operators’ e-selling, payments online, POS and ATMs has increased. The Federal Government has required conscientiousness from leaders of higher education institutions because many institutions are not doing their job in good faith. Oloyede underlined that some of them fulfill their duties understanding and knowing that their deals could not pass the check for conscientiousness as they turn a blind eye to violations. As for the new rules, Mr. Oloyede stated that measures had been taken to prove that blind applicants were not deprived of civil rights when the international students got the fees reduced from 120 US dollars to 20 US dollars. He said that the central admission system which was developed and deployed in 2017 helps to provide unhindered admission he Minister of Education invoked to heads of high schools in Nigeria to introduce clarity, integrity, justice, and justice to nation-building as fundamental principles in their institutions. He called for all parties concerned to provide compliance with all policy instructions for the sake education’s development in Nigeria. The minister noted that rule’s infringements would not be allowed since the appropriate sanctions will be used for an intruder.  Hope that JAMB new guidelines on admission will help to make the process more transparent and convenient both for candidates and universities.

STUDENTS AND DRUG ABUSE

What is Drug Abuse? 

Drug abuse is simply the intake of medication in ways that have not been prescribed by a doctor also an extremely desire to obtain and use increasing amount of one or more substances.

Here are two good reasons why students indulge in Drug Abuse;

1. To feel good. Most abused drugs produce intense feelings of pleasure. This initial sensation of euphoria is followed by other effects, which differ with the type of drug used. For example, with stimulants such as cocaine, the “high” is followed by feelings of power, self-confidence, and increased energy. In contrast, the euphoria caused by opiates such as heroin is followed by feelings of relaxation and satisfaction.

     2.  peer pressure: In this respect adolescents are particularly vulnerable because of the strong influence of peer pressure. Teens are more likely than adults to engage in risky or daring behaviors to impress their friends and express their independence from parental and social rules.

  

 Ways to prevent Drug Abuse among students

While it’s practically impossible to prevent anyone and everyone from using drugs, there are things we can all do to avoid drug and/or alcohol abuse. By sharing this knowledge with those closest to you, you yourself may be able to prevent them from doing drugs, too. Here are the top five ways to help prevent drug abuse:

1. Effectively deal with peer pressure. The biggest reason teens start using drugs is because their friends utilize peer pressure. No one likes to be left out, and teens (and yes, some adults, too) find themselves doing things they normally wouldn’t do, just to fit in. In these cases, you need to either find a better group of friends that won’t pressure you into doing harmful things, or you need to find a good way to say no. Teens should prepare a good excuse or plan ahead of time, to keep from giving into tempting situations.

2. Deal with life pressure. People today are overworked and overwhelmed, and often feel like a good break or a reward is deserved. But in the end, drugs only make life more stressful — and many of us all too often fail to recognize this in the moment. To prevent using drugs as a reward, find other ways to handle stress and unwind. Take up exercising, read a good book, volunteer with the needy, and create something. Anything positive and relaxing helps take the mind off using drugs to relieve stress.

3. Seek help for mental illness. Mental illness and substance abuse often go hand-in-hand. Those with a mental illness may turn to drugs as a way to ease the pain. Those suffering from some form of mental illness, such as anxiety, depression or post-traumatic stress disorder should seek the help of a trained professional for treatment before it leads to substance abuse.

4. Examine the risk factors. If you’re aware of the biological, environmental and physical risk factors you possess, you’re more likely to overcome them. A history of substance abuse in the family, living in a social setting that glorifies drug abuse and/or family life that models drug abuse can be risk factors.

5. Keep a well-balanced life. People take up drugs when something in their life is not working, or when they’re unhappy about their lives or where their lives are going. Look at life’s big picture, and have priorities in order.

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HOUSE OF REPRESENTATIVES HAVE ASKED FEDERAL MINISTRY OF EDUCATION TO REDUCE THE COST OF POST UTME EXAMINATION TO N3000.

The call to reduce the price of unified tertiary matriculation examination appeared on the wave of the common movement to make education accessible and affordable. The cost of UTME registration in 2017 was N7, 500.00. James Faleke (APC, Lagos) proposed the review of this amount. According to Faleke in our days the number of universities increased and only a half of applicants were admitted to the institutions in 2017. Further aware that JAMB as a government agency is not set up for profit making but to promote the educational development of the young citizens in pursuit of their professional career. I was alarmed at the allegation of the huge sum of money missing from the vaults, burning of scratch cards, lending out money made from sales of application forms, conversion of proceeds from sales of application forms to loans and Image ’empowerment’ funds to private individuals and fictitious stories by the officials of the board. Believes that education, being a pivot upon which relational development of the nation rests, should be made available to citizens at the barest minimum cost. After such words, the intention of unified tertiary matriculation examination price reduction was referred to the committee. We await the final decision on this issue after two weeks of consideration. We will bring you the latest post UTME news as soon as the information reaches us.